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about their experiences in defending children. A Protective Parent is a caregiver who feels a child in their care has
or is being abused and works to end the abuse. A Protective Parent can be a mother, father, grandparent or foster
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The below case is still going on in January 2010.
I had court on the November 19th, asking to return my daughter in my custody, and I had the minor's counsel removed for mis conduct, false accusations, false reports and more. There was a finding of the false accusations that was made against me that caused me to lose my rights to my daughter in Feb. 27th, 2007, not see her for 17 months and she has been away from home for 34 months. The judge made a finding that what was reported about me to be completely false and the judge made a finding on the prior judge "HE IS UNDOING JUDGE WARREN'S ORDERS" I was not married to this man and I raised my daughter since birth to 7. she is now 9, and she came home for the first
time in 34 months, and OMG, she still the little girl that I raised, but she is so traumatized of why mommy was taken from
her, why I did not show up for visits, lost 8 months of phone calls, it is the most distraught situation
to see what this father has done to this child. The minor's counsel, the father, and
opposing counsel made so many claims against me, went against the 730 evaluations,went against her therapist, and all the
mediators. The father has been arrested for selling prescription drugs (steroids), been on steroids for 30
years, physically abused my daughter which was reported to CPS by pediatrician and therapist, and just more. All was
suppressed by minor's counsel, father , and opposing counsel. Finally, after filing in the Appeals court, civil
court, this judge finally looked at all the evidence, and made the findings against the father, minor's counsel, opposing
counsel, and the prior judge. Which now allows me to file under code 3027.1 for sanctions in family
court and civil court. The father has filed a no contact, bribed a therapist in a email, they all stated to every non-party
that I was very mentally ill, so I had no unsupervised contact with her school, nobody for 34 months. All my calls have
been on a speaker phone, and recorded. I was able to submit emails of the father and minor's counsel stating to
me that I will not ever see my daughter, have contact, that I have just abandoned my daughter, and much, much more.
After all that I have asked for my daughter to be returned to me, and the judge still is not returning her to me.
He wants me to have two visits before he makes his decision. My daughter came home for the first time in 34 months,
and she will return in 2 weeks. I guess my confusion is, if any one parent can use false accusations against the other
parent I thought that constitutes abuse, Hostile aggressive parenting. I keep hearing, the father has
to fail and fail and fail, when does the fail constitutes custody to be returned to me. I was told by the judge, "it
is like a glass of water, if you give a child too much water they can drown" Does that make sense?
Now I was able to prove with substantial evidence that the father, minor's counsel, and opposing counsel, used,
made, falsified, that I was mentally ill, that I was too detrimental to raise my daughter, (but I have my son). The
judge also made a finding against the prior judge!!! This new judge gave me my creditability back
in court, and said he is undoing judge warrens prior orders, It was actually the judge before him,
female, and I guarantee she realized 4 year ago that she made a mistake and thought I was the trouble maker and and when she
found out about her so called colleagues, she removed herself off the case, but left me to be used by her statement of
calling me a disease, cancer, and I need help desperately. The judge did make a finding that father and minor's counsel used false accusations against me. I have 3 hearing on the 4th, for sanctions 3027.1,271, and 128.5 , one on father, one on minor's counsel, and opposing counsel. So much evidence is now coming out. Back in march of 06, the judge called me a cancer, a disease, and that I need psychiatric help, even after 2- 730's stating the father has mental problems. From that point on I lost 3 years of my daughters life because of the false statement from the judge and they have used that against me. The current judge had someone investigate my mental status,and I came up completely normal and fine and he is undoing the prior judges's orders, and he wanted me to have my daughter come home two times and he is making a custody change. OW, my daughter has been so damaged, so heart breaking. I have recently closed my business so I can fight for her full time, and get her back to give her the proper care and up bringing. Experiences of Protective Mothers in their own words.
Sunday, April 6, 2008My story and a message to my daughter, RachelI love my daughter, Rachel, with all of my heart and soul. My hope and prayer is that my precious daughter will always
know how very much I will always love her and how desperately I miss her. Because of the fact that I have been denied due
process in the family law court of Orange County, Rachel and I have not seen each other for almost 5 years. Rachel has also
been separated from her extended family - her grandmother, aunts, uncles, cousins, pets, her friends and her home - everything
she has ever known and loves. Both my mother and I were jailed for trying to protect Rachel from abuse by her father, an attorney,
who is accused by two qualified medical doctors of sexual, physical and emotional abuse. The first doctor, an M.D., testified
before the Superior Court in Orange County on August 30, 2002 about the sexual abuse and his entire testimony was dismissed
and discredited. Minor's counsel was appointed that same day and shortly after, a 730 evaluation was court ordered. The
contents of the 730 evaluation reports are untruthful and it was recommended to the court, by the evaluator, that I have no
contact with Rachel. The second doctor, also an M.D. who specializes in children, and who is court approved to be Rachel's
treating physician, has been denied the right to give testimony before the court 5-6 times under court subpoena, by suppression
from minor's counsel. Minor's counsel will not allow testimony, or the 3 child abuse reports submitted by this doctor,
or any other reports or evidence to be admitted into court. Due to these reports of abuse (at least 6 reports were filed),
Social Services became involved in the case. Despite these abuse reports, Social Services did not intervene to protect Rachel.
Since the court, CPS, the police, etc. repeatedly failed to protect Rachel, I left with her and my mother was involved. We
were both caught, arrested and jailed. My mother served 90 days house arrest at the age of 73, being charged with aiding and
abetting a fugitive and I served 80 days in Orange County Womens Jail, being charged with felony kidnapping, although I never
left Orange County. My mother and I were both placed on 3 years of formal probation. I have been accused of making false allegations
against Rachel's father, which is untrue. I never accused Rachel's father, nor did I make any abuse allegations at
any time. I was first informed by the first doctor that Rachel had reported to him that her father was sexually abusing her
and Rachel continued to talk more and more about the abuse that she had been subjected to by her father- continually expressing
fear of having to visit him and informing me that her father had told her many times that he would kill me, herself, grandma
and her dog, and that she would never see me again if she told anyone, especially Social Services about the abuse, among many
other behaviors/signs Rachel exhibited that were consistent with abuse. Rachel also reported the same information about the
abuse to the second doctor. A report was also filed with the Anaheim police department and a detective was assigned to the
case. However, the police or the detective did not conduct an investigation about the abuse. In April of 2003, I was in contempt
of court for denying visitation to Rachel's father. At the request of Rachel's father, the contempt charges were dismissed
in order to prevent the evidence from surfacing. I was denied a hearing at that time as well. Despite the abuse reports and
the contempt charges being dismissed, Rachel was still removed from my custody on June 4, 2003, and temporary custody was
given to her father for only 60 days. I have never been provided a hearing/trial, even after those 60 days or at any time
thereafter. Therefore, I have been in "temporary" orders for almost 5 years, since permanent custody was never given
to her father, nor have my parental rights ever been terminated. In addition to losing custody, I was placed on monitored
visitation without being proven that I was an unfit mother. For almost 5 years, Rachel has not been allowed to receive photos,
cards, letters or gifts from me or any family member. My family and I have missed four of Rachel's birthdays, five Christmases/
every holiday, special occasions/vacations. I am denied the right to know her residence or have any information on her schooling,
progress in school, or the right to talk with or meet her teachers or attend any events at school. My family and I have been
completely cut out of Rachel's life. Due to a court order, I am allowed only two hours a month of telephone contact with
Rachel, which is both monitored and recorded by her father, which allows him to terminate the phone call at any time. I have
been fighting since August of 2002 for protection and for the justice Rachel so rightfully deserves and to regain custody
of her. I have fought through the entire court system, filing an appeal at the Federal Court of Appeals for the Ninth Circuit.
My case was held there for almost a year and a half, before the court dismissed my case. The issue of the violation of my
rights was not addressed by the Ninth Circuit. I will continue to fight for our rights and for protection and justice for
Rachel.  A Stepmother
Hi,
I wanted to write, because the victims of abuse and their families aren't really protected from the
press, which can be brutal.
My step-daughter was molested by her father, my ex-husband. It happened three times, but
people treated me as if I had known, and let it go on. I had a 9 year old son at the time too. I was not allowed to discuss
the case, and banned from speaking to friends, that may have to be used as witnesses, I felt so alone and betrayed. I also,
didn't think it was appropriate to tell my nine year old son vivid details of this, and eventually let him talk with his father
once a month. I was like he just died. He was there one day and gone the next. My ex-in laws, accused me of causing it. If
I had left my husband It would have meant living her, and I had raised her for 15 years. The abuse probably would have been
worse, and occurred more. My step-daughter won't talk to me now either. I was very hurt and bitter, until I let god into my
life, and learned about forgiveness.
I wrote Because I was a victim too, and so was my son. Plus the district attorney wanted my step daughter
to appear in court, to better their case. I wouldn't let her. They had a taped conversation, that's all they needed. Then
the press waited for the Sunday newspaper to plaster this on the front page. My step-daughter's name was not mentioned, but
her age was, her fathers name was, and it was very obvious she was the victim. It was like being victimizing all over
again. I think, because of all the publicity,and the trial procedure, there are probably more victims out there, that
won't report it.  |
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